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Dear Readers,
We invite you to become members of Attention Deficit Disorder Resources. We have greatly increased membership benefits so they now include free access to all our podcasts. We have over 45 on a variety of topics and the list continues to grow. In addtion to numerous other benefits, we are providing members with two free ebooks—the 14–page Living on the Edge of Distraction which some believe contains the best description of what it feels like to have ADHD and the 32–page eBook The ADDult Workbook which is for the adult with ADHD who wants to better manage his or her life. These ebooks will only be available through December 2007. Learn more at http://www.addresources.org/membership.php. Renew Now.
See if you relate to my musing in this eNews on Nursing a Grudge. Look over the table with two views of ADHD--Impaired and Postive. See what valuable webcasts and freebies are available in "Interesting Web Sites and Articles."
Nursing a Grudge
For the past year I have been nursing a grudge against a friend who I thought didn't like me as much as she pretended to. Every time my mind wasn't occupied with something else, I would return to my grudge, working over and over again the variations on the theme. I would tell myself it was fruitless, a waste of time, wasn't helping the situation, etc., yet there I was, stewing about it again and again.
Dr. Hallowell writes how the mind of the ADHD person needs to be engaged, and when it is not engaged in something engaging, it engages it less enlightening activities-like worrying or nursing a grudge. Our mind, dwelling on the worry or the grudge, becomes like the hamster running round and round on his wheel, never getting us anywhere, but unable to stop.
When my friend's husband got badly injured in a bicycle accident and was in intensive care—everything changed. Suddenly, nursing my grudge was no longer an issue. Someone I knew and cared about was deeply distressed by the change in her family. What could I do to help? What could I do to show that I was there for her and cared about her and what she was going through? My grudge evaporated instantly and I am confident it won't return. The accident proved to be a reality check for me.
What was important? My feelings of hurt over perceived rejection or being a good friend to someone in need?
What grudges are you nursing along? Would your life be better if you stopped paying so much attention to what, from the right perspective, amounts to a hill of beans? Try to forgive the other person—whatever trepasses they have committed—because, without forgiveness, you are going to continue to suffer. Nursing a grievance may make you feel self–righteous, but it also makes you feel lousy.
Until next month,
Cynthia Hammer, MSW, Director
National ADHD Awareness Day is Sep 19
What can you do to increase responsible awareness of ADHD? Print out our poster and put it up in a public place—library, city hall, school, church, everywhere. Let people know that ADHD exists and that they should get their information on this disorder from reputable sources.
5th Annual ADHD Conference on October 13th
If you've come before, come again. If you haven't come, make it this time. It is hard to tell you the magic of attending a conference and how it gives you a tremendous boost on your ADHd journey. Learn more about this conference now.
Free (and Outstanding) Weekly Teleclasses Start in September
As outstanding as they are, we have decided to make all our teleclasses free. Participate in live teleclasses with some of the national authorities: Chris Dendy, Sandy Maynard, Edward Hallowell, Nancy Ratey along with other outstanding ADHD presenters. Visit http://www.addresources.org/adhd_teleclasses.php to see what topics and presenters are coming up and what number you need to call and what access number to enter. You will need to remind your self to attend (can you do that?) as there will be be no reminder email with these free teleclasses.
Note: All our teleclasses are recorded and made into podcasts so you can listen to them at anytime. Podcasts are free for members and cost $7 for non-members. See our current listing of podcasts>> Become a member>>
We kick off our fall series—September through November— of weekly teleclasses with Chris Dendy, noted national ADHD authority and author. The title of her teleclass is Understanding the Impact of ADHD and Executive Function Deficits on Learning. This teleclass is specially for parents getting their children ready to return to school or for anyone that is a student. The teleclass is on Wednesday, September 5 at 5 pm PST.
Next in the line up is ADHD Coach Extraordinaire Sandy Maynard talking about Exercise: How to Make Time for It? This teleclass is on Tuesday the 11th at 5 pm PST.
On Tuesday, Sep 19 at 6 pm PST (7 pm MST, 8 pm CST and 9 pm EST), Ari Tuckman, Ph.D. will present on Explanation or Excuse?—Take Charge of Your Life.
The final presentation in September will be with Pauline Laurent, ADHD Coach, talking about Spiritual Interventions for ADHD on Thursday, Sep 27 at 5 pm PST.
On Tuesday, October 2 at 6 p.m. PST (7 p.m. MST., 8 pm CST and 9 pm EST) participate in a teleclass with Dr. Edward Hallowell on Unwrapping the Gifts of the ADD Mind.
Get the information on all these free teleclasses now.
Become an Outstanding ADHD Coach
Registration is now open for Parts I and Part II of ADHD Coaching, taught by Sandy Maynard. Each of these 8–session (90 minutes each) teleclasses comes with a full workbook. Classes start on Monday, September 10 with class size limited to 12 participants. Sandy has taught many to be successful ADHD coaches. If this is the career for you, you can't find a better training program than this one offerred by Sandy. Learn more and register now.
Coaching to the Core!—Mentoring for ADHD Coaches
A series of mentoring conference calls for ADHD Coaches taught by Nancy Ratey, Ed.M., MCC
2nd Wednesday of each month—9/12/07; 10/10/07; 11/14/07 from 3–4:30 pm PDT, 4–5:30 pm MDT; 5–6:30 pm CDT and 6–7:30 pm EDT. This is a 3–Part Series— Please note: participants must sign–up for all 3 sessions.
This interactive, hands–on, telecourse presents the AD/HD coaching model (partnership, structure and process) as a framework to deepen participants' understanding of the coaching dynamic and build upon existing coaching skills. Group discussion facilitates learning from, and sharing with, other coaches. Participation in and observation of live coaching enhances participants' mastery of workshop material.
Pricing: $125 for series for professional members; $135 for regular members and $150 for non–members
Learn more and register online
Teleclass Series on ADHD and Relationships
AD/HD and Your Relationship with Your Significant Other: Make Some Changes Now!
You have learned about your ADHD and you and your partner have already benefitted from this new knowledge. But some pieces in your relationship are still not falling into place. What to do? Where to go next?
We have an answer. Five couples are invited to participate in a 4–session (90 minutes each) teleclass where they will obtain new insights and learn new relationship skills.
Teleclasses are like participating in a conference call where everyone calls into the same number, paying their own long distance charges.
These teleclasses will be held each Friday afternoon in October, (4:30-6 pm PST; 5:30-7 pm; MST; 6:30-8 pm CST and 7:30-9 pm EST) and will be conducted by Don Baker, LMHC and very skilled therapist working with ADHD couples. Learn more and register now!
Interesting Web Sites and Articles
- The Relevance of Coexisting Disorders in the Diagnosis and Management of ADHD—a video featuring Dr Russell Barkleyhttp://www.pvupdate.com/prgs/adhd11/index.htm
- Three free webcasts on ADHD
- A series of interactive online seminars specifically for Military Medical Personnel, Civilian Health Care Professionals, Families and Caregivers. This FREE 4–part series, entitled Behavioral Disorders Commonly Encountered in Children and Adults with Developmental Disabilities: ADD/ADHD and Autism begins Wednesday, September 12th at 4 pm PST (5 pm MST; 6 pm CST and 8 pm EST)
- Get a free ADHD Road Map to Success Kit, designed by both professional ADHD coaches and Moms. By using the tips and tools included in the Road Map to Success, you'll actually see your child's progress, so you know you're helping your child succeed.
- Helping Your Child—a series of booklets in both English and Spanish (download as pdfs) provided by the US Dept of Education. These booklets are on a range of topics related to academics and behavior.
- Test for adhd
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing,(EMDR)—A good article explaining the beneficial uses of EMDR. The article states, "EMDR will not help with Attention Deficit Disorder, but can help with the negative experiences a person may have as a result of the disorder."
Two Views of ADHD
| Impaired View of ADHD | Positive View of ADHD |
|---|---|
| Easily distracted | Constantly monitoring environment |
| Attention span is short, but can become intensely focused for long periods of time. | Able to throw themselves into the chase on a moment's notice. |
| Poor planner, disorganized and impulsive; makes snap decisions. | Flexible; ready to change strategy quickly. |
| Distorted sense of time: unaware of how long it will take to do something. | Tireless: capable of sustained drives, but only when "hot on the trail" of some goal. |
| Impatient. | Results oriented NOW! |
| Doesn't convert words into concepts adeptly, and vice versa. Slow reader. | Visual or concrete thinker, clearly seeing a tangible goal even if there are no words for it. |
| Has difficulty following instructions. | Independent, entrepreneurial, born leader. |
| Daydreamer. | Bored by mundane tasks; enjoy new ideas, excitement, "the hunt," or the journey. |
| Acts without considering consequences. | Willing and able to take risks and face danger. |
| Lacking in the social graces. | No time for niceties when there are decisions to be made. |
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Do You Know a Good ADHD Service Provider or Product?
Help us let others know who is good. Download this web page. Give it to ADHD service providers you know. Encourage them to become participants in the National ADHD Directory—a resource for all folks in the United State looking for help with their ADHD difficulties. The National ADHD Directory opened to the public on April 1, 2004. We have over 1150 providers listed. Check it out>>
